As I evolve and transition into the woman I choose to be on this journey one thing that has become increasingly and glaringly true is the fact that the best thing I can do in this life is love myself. For me, this means that I am okay on my own little ‘me’ island regardless of who may come to visit or who decides to jump ship. It means I am at peace internally with the world around me and that I am able to enjoy my own company. It means that I truly like me and do not need the acceptance or flattery of outside influences because I have an unshakable confidence about who I am.
Loving yourself is one of the ultimate tests to pass in a world where we are told we are never enough, and that we must always aspire to be something or someone else. We are pounded with the lie that life is not complete if you don’t have a mate or something external to fulfill you. In a society where you are always told to be or do more it can be tough to find the strength to say, I am enough! But you are strong, you are brave and you are enough.
Loving yourself means that you accept who and where you are, you accept your ‘flaws’, and challenges, you accept who you are at the core. If you are overweight, you accept that, if you are needy, you accept that and if you are a nerdy weirdo (like me:) guess what you accept that too! You aren’t in the business of hating yourself and no longer feel the need to fight against yourself or berate who you are right now. Acceptance does not mean you must settle into these things you wish to change about yourself, but that you accept them and do not judge yourself for them. It means that you choose positive ways to release and grow and are forgiving of yourself in the process. It is a process and sometimes a slow one, so be gentle with you.
Think about it this way, if you love someone (and they happen to be human) you will have to accept that they are flawed, but you love them anyway while assisting them on a journey to a better them. This is how you should love you.
Truly loving yourself means that you become better at loving others but you continue to have an internal peace that comes with knowing no matter who or what may enter your life, you are going to be okay. You become free from searching the world for love, you are free from the ache of unrequited love, free from the fear of loss and your world doesn’t crash and burn simply because you have no one else in it to love you, because you are always enough.
True selflove is freedom. It is knowing and embracing the fact that you are complete and whole in this moment but if you aren’t there yet it’s absolutely nothing to stress over. Each new day presents an opportunity to love on you, wake up tomorrow with the goal of having a day filled with love for others and yourself. There will be times when you may fall away from this view, lose yourself in relationship or your mentality attempts to shift to one of not being your best, make it a point to feel those feelings but also intentionally do the work to get through them and concentrate on loving you fully. After all aside from God you are really all you have in the end.
It’s grow time! So let’s get started with loving yourself first. One of the greatest things you can do for yourself is to love who you are! Accept your flaws and quirks, and always build yourself up that way no matter how much people may try they can never tear you down!
For some additional tips on loving yourself completely, click here or here.
Have any additional words of advice or nuggets of inspiration please leave them below in the comments!
These are two video from awesomefest that I enjoyed based on selflove thought I’d share! (one day I’d really love to present at or attend a fest!!)
Love you lots but God loves you much more!